We are always over analyzing everything aren’t we? Something someone’s said or done.
We figure it’s us sometimes and we beat ourselves up about it, thinking we should have done or said something different. Been a little gentler, different tone, said less.
But it’s too little to late for that unfortunately. Words sting.
We carry it around in our pockets, it weighs us down and keeps us thinking about it cause we can feel that stone of negativity rolling around in there. A constant reminder.
But how we perceive something that’s been said is not always accurate. Sometimes the mind can get a little ridiculous over one thing and not let it go because it wasn’t so much as to what was said rather it is more about our ego being affected.
The thing is we aren’t perfect despite sometimes thinking we got it all together.
People in our lives can gently point these things out to us and then we come to realize that they did not intend to hurt but only show that perhaps they themselves are feeling hurt by the those actions we are doing to them.
We are never going to see eye to eye with anyone 100% of the time ever. So if you think there is someone out there that will they either have no backbone or they just don’t want to be combative so they instead nod and agree to avoid conflict. Those people aren’t going to push you to be better and that’s what we all need.
The opportunity for growth lies in those moments of more often than not times when we are uncomfortable and called out on our shit.
And believe me I have been too I see it sometimes you know falling back into old patterns and stuff cause it’s comfortable. But comfortable never got anyone anywhere.
You want to do better you have to get uncomfortable, the idea that what isn’t broke don’t fix it mindset because you know what we all can improve and we can do it a little at a time. Better than you were yesterday if we make an agreement that we will try to do our best each and every day.
We can change the way things are by looking at what we want to become and start acting as though we already are this person and make the decision moving forward, what ever that is for you as the individual.
Self worth should never be part of that equation. Just because your ego was bruised because someone said something doesn’t mean you are now not enough. No, this has nothing to do with that at all.
It’s something to improve but you as a person are not less because you may have made a mistake or have something to work on and I think that our brain can sometimes get this fact confused.
We internalize and think something is wrong with us, and there isn’t. We just need to figure out a few things that we may be not fully aware of.
Perception is so different for everyone, because they live in their own world. As do I and as do you. So we never see things exactly because we may have never had to deal with certain things like someone else, we grew up in a different family life, or a different set of circumstances so no we cannot see exactly into someone else’s point of view. But we can look to ourselves and see how it effects those close to us as a way to analyze how we can better present ourselves.
But most importantly the first and foremost thing to remember when someone says something to you is to be so very gentle with yourself. Be kind to you and remember that everyday is a new day to start again, to make changes and to be better versions of ourselves. We can’t be anyone else because everyone else is already taken.
Namaste
Lizzywhothefunkc 