How we perceive the way things are

We are always over analyzing everything aren’t we? Something someone’s said or done.

We figure it’s us sometimes and we beat ourselves up about it, thinking we should have done or said something different. Been a little gentler, different tone, said less.

But it’s too little to late for that unfortunately. Words sting.

We carry it around in our pockets, it weighs us down and keeps us thinking about it cause we can feel that stone of negativity rolling around in there. A constant reminder.

But how we perceive something that’s been said is not always accurate. Sometimes the mind can get a little ridiculous over one thing and not let it go because it wasn’t so much as to what was said rather it is more about our ego being affected.

The thing is we aren’t perfect despite sometimes thinking we got it all together.

People in our lives can gently point these things out to us and then we come to realize that they did not intend to hurt but only show that perhaps they themselves are feeling hurt by the those actions we are doing to them.

We are never going to see eye to eye with anyone 100% of the time ever. So if you think there is someone out there that will they either have no backbone or they just don’t want to be combative so they instead nod and agree to avoid conflict. Those people aren’t going to push you to be better and that’s what we all need.

The opportunity for growth lies in those moments of more often than not times when we are uncomfortable and called out on our shit.

And believe me I have been too I see it sometimes you know falling back into old patterns and stuff cause it’s comfortable. But comfortable never got anyone anywhere.

You want to do better you have to get uncomfortable, the idea that what isn’t broke don’t fix it mindset because you know what we all can improve and we can do it a little at a time. Better than you were yesterday if we make an agreement that we will try to do our best each and every day.

We can change the way things are by looking at what we want to become and start acting as though we already are this person and make the decision moving forward, what ever that is for you as the individual.

Self worth should never be part of that equation. Just because your ego was bruised because someone said something doesn’t mean you are now not enough. No, this has nothing to do with that at all.

It’s something to improve but you as a person are not less because you may have made a mistake or have something to work on and I think that our brain can sometimes get this fact confused.

We internalize and think something is wrong with us, and there isn’t. We just need to figure out a few things that we may be not fully aware of.

Perception is so different for everyone, because they live in their own world. As do I and as do you. So we never see things exactly because we may have never had to deal with certain things like someone else, we grew up in a different family life, or a different set of circumstances so no we cannot see exactly into someone else’s point of view. But we can look to ourselves and see how it effects those close to us as a way to analyze how we can better present ourselves.

But most importantly the first and foremost thing to remember when someone says something to you is to be so very gentle with yourself. Be kind to you and remember that everyday is a new day to start again, to make changes and to be better versions of ourselves. We can’t be anyone else because everyone else is already taken.


Published by Lizzywhothefunkc

Home site: Home grown from Ontario Canada, a city girl. Just an ordinary girl with a dream and a plan. Always had a sense of style and clarity looking beyond the city life. As a child, a sponge absorbing the world and all in it, I then became a mother of two. I realized that life is too short not to want to be all the things you dream of. Because of it, I have now decided that nothing is more important than being who you are and loving yourself and all that you do. Discovering things all over through child’s eyes and wonder on my own, I am reborn again and refreshed. Eat breathe sleep art. Kids are inspiring me to discover the new and unchanged part of the creative me now morphing into Lizzywhothefunkc. Pushing to the limits and thinking outside the boundaries of art. Lost in color, lost in paint, lost in me. No one can tell you not to live a dream no one can tell you to put the paint brush on your self-worth down and be someone who reflects only another. Be free, be whom you want to be, most of all be happy. I am and never have been happier than I am right now the present moment. Don’t ever let go of what you think will bring out your soul. A fire has been lit within and I will never put it out again. Headphones on world out, this funky lady is Dj for her own life song.

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